Everyone wants to be a happy, fully functioning adult, optimistic with good self esteem, able to make wise choices and able to give and receive love. If you came from a family that was well adjusted, with parents who were loving, supportive and had good parental and coping skills, then chances are you had a happy childhood and grew up to be a well adjusted adult.
Looking back, as far as I can recall you could only find those families on TV during the 50s and 60s. Those TV families had a script, which was probably written by writers who were projecting onto their TV characters what they could only wish they had had in their lives.
Unfortunately there is no script, or more importantly no instruction manual given to parents when they are handed their precious bundle of joy. Isn’t that ridiculous? Consider the fact that most jobs require some type of instruction, and the really important ones require huge manuals. But somehow, “parenting,” one of THE most important jobs anyone will ever have, is done, well, “on the fly.”
So it may be safe to assume that most of us have some “inner child” issues. Which I guess is ok, considering that on the whole, as a nation, we seem better at fixing what we’ve broken, rather than preventing the problem in the first place. Moving forward, the not so good thing is that although some of us are aware that there are things lurking in our subconscious which have a way contaminating our life, many are not.
The good news is this: getting to the root of many of our issues can be accomplished by something called “inner child” work. Inner child work involves remembering you, as a child and the good, the bad and the ugly and how certain events may be impacting your life today. Inner child work can produce amazing breakthroughs in less time than you might imagine.
To get in touch with your inner child try this one simple exercise. Take some time to be alone, in a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed. Take a few deep cleansing breaths in and out. Now, write a short note to your inner child asking them what they want or need. Next, with your non- dominant hand write an answer to your question(s). You may be quite surprised at what your inner child has to say.