I was away for a few weeks,crossing over a couple of states; big fun and big work… and well…. just never got around to posting this for the 4th of July. Hope you’ll forgive me for this late posting and also hope you find the content helpful!
235 years ago, on July 4th (or there about), Thomas Jefferson delivered the formal announcement that the 13 American Colonies were no longer part of the British Empire. These 13 colonies wished to break away from the British Empire and govern themselves…. and for good reason. Tired of paying more and more taxes (thank goodness that’s changed! LOL) to the British Empire and resentful of the restrictions placed on their religious beliefs, they decided to proclaim their freedom and independence. And that’s the very short version of why on July 4th we ate dogs and burgers, macaroni salad and brownies, listened to “Born in the USA,” watched spectacular fireworks and drank mojitos (Ok….well that’s what I drank)…. all in the name of freedom and independence.
We celebrate our country’s freedom on July 4th ….and I wonder: why does it seem easier to free a country than to free ourselves emotionally?
As a Life Coach and Living Miraculously author I hear countless stories from incredibly independent, intelligent, worldly and savvy people who can eagle eye a bad deal, build & run successful businesses, yet still be emotionally trapped.
Part of my Living Miraculously program and manifesting miracles in your life involves disconnecting from emotional traps. How do you know if you are emotionally trapped? Here are a few clues:
- When I’m angry with someone, I don’t breathe and center myself and I react as opposed to respond.
- If I’m blamed for something, I feel the need to defend my actions
- When I’m stuck in traffic, I’m impatient and annoyed
- I find it difficult to set limits with people who drain me
- I find it hard to let go of negative situations and dwell on the past or future.
These are all situations that we might allow ourselves to be controlled by. And of course in actuality, it’s not the situation that is controlling us, but our thoughts about the situation.
So how do we free ourselves? When we are in harmony, in tune and in love with ourselves, we are set free. And of course, I’m not talking about the ego’s deluded and comparative love of self; “Why, I’m better than you…or I’m less than you.” What I’m referring to is a love of self that comes from the place of self esteem. As opposed to the ego’s view of self, real self esteem recognizes our inborn goodness and our equality with the rest of the world. (More on this topic at another time!)
Declare this YOUR independence day …and just for today… be emotionally free… Here are some tips to help you:
- Love yourself like no other lover! Honor your strength, your courage, your creativity, your beautiful mind and body. No criticisms!
- Picture a life that flows peacefully along, like a smooth and gentle river meandering around curves and over small pebbles and branches, without resistance, yet strong and deliberate. Get that “Easy” button you see advertised on TV from Staples!
- Be fearless, vulnerable and willing to take risks! How do you know how far you can go unless you try? In order for us to discover who we are authentically, usually means going where we haven’t gone before. Try new things, meet new people, take a course in something you’re really interested in. Be willing and eager to discover what special gift you have to share with the world.
- Release the need to be all things to all people. You know what they say: You can please all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot please all the people all the time.
- Stop Scaring yourself! Our thoughts can terrorize us. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure and immediately switch your scary thought to something happy!